I have talked to many women over the years who struggle to meet their health and/or weight loss goals. Whether talking to them as their coach, trainer, or just as a friend, the situation is similar across the board (and I’ve ABSOLUTELY been here before too and struggle with it from time to time).
You’ve tried a buttload of different diet and weight loss programs/ philosophies, but it never sticks. You don’t have time to plan out your meals or prep them ahead of time. Whenever you get stressed, you turn immediately to food and/or drinks. You hate the feeling of deprivation every time you try and diet. You just love junk food WAY too much to give it up. BUT, you feel gross every time you look in the mirror or see a picture of yourself. You think, “I’d this what I really look like?” Every time you sit down, or try to get out of the car, or take a bath to try and relax, your stomach gets in the way or does that terrible scrunch thing. Your clothes don’t fit and you HATE that. Or maybe you don’t struggle with body image issues, but you just feel like crap and lack energy ALL THE FREAKING TIME. You wake up every morning already feeling tired and behind and sluggish, and you go to bed each night exhausted.
I want to share with you the single most important thing that will change the game for you; the thing that’s been holding you back.
It’s your own mind.
You need a mindset change, sister.
Please PLEAAASSEE keep reading, because this is not the standard, run-of-the-mill, pre-packaged message of “Just think positive thoughts! Positive thinking=positive outcome!”
Nope. I know you’ve heard aaallll the “fitspiration” quotes out there, and they’ve never worked before. At least, not indefinitely.
That’s because they might be the wrong thoughts for your journey, and/or your brain just straight up doesn’t believe them. I mean, think about it. Some really fit girl posts a #motivationmonday quote that says something like, “Nothing tastes as good as skinny feels.” And your brain is like, “Yeah, okay, that’s definitely true. PSYCH. Uh, ha ha—no.” That thought may work for that girl, but it doesn’t work for you because your brain has to work WAY too hard to start believing it (that thought may also be causing an eating disorder for her, but that’s another topic).
When I talk about a mindset shift, I mean a sustainable one. One that is gradual and kind, and sustainable and doesn’t include beating yourself up for not being good enough or changing fast enough.
So here’s what you have to do. Slowly start to change your mindset. In the beginning, pick only thoughts that work for you. If you are starting off with a thought like, “This will never work. It never has before,” then try switching to a thought like, “I wonder how I could make this work this time.” Get curious! Keep an open mind. QUESTION beliefs about weight loss that you’ve always thought to be absolutely 100% true.
This is one I hear a LOT: “It’s so hard for me to lose weight.” That is a thought. It is not a fact. Even if losing weight has always been a challenge for you, I have news for you: it’s probably because you’ve always started with that thought. To get a different result in any area of your life, you have to start choosing new and different thoughts about it. Just don’t try to jump from a super negative thought to a super UBER positive one. Your brain will be onto you SO quick. A good thought to try on if you have the belief that weight loss is hard is, “Losing the weight isn’t hard, that part is just math. What my brain THINKS is hard is the negative feelings I feel whenever I do the things I need to do to lose weight. But, I’m kind of a badass, and I’m ready to feel those feelings. Feelings are just chemical reactions in my body; I can handle that.”
Then the next step is to practice that thought. When the old one comes up, just think of the new thought. I have found it helpful in the past to print it out and put it up around the house or wherever I’ll see it so that I’m constantly reminded of it. I also find it helpful to write down my thoughts when I’m feeling super overwhelmed and wanting to quit. That way I can see all of my thoughts, then write down my new thought—just re-emphasizing the new one over and over.
There you have it. I PROMISE you, the way you think is SO important. It’s what’s creating the results you’re currently getting in your life. It’s simple, but not easy. It takes hard work, but remember: you actually are pretty badass. And if you can change your thoughts, you really can change your life. I’m dead serious.
If you want any help, let’s schedule a free mini session! I can give you some ideas of new thoughts you might try on that are specific to your struggles. As a certified personal trainer and weight coach, I am well trained in this stuff and it’s what I LOVE doing. I have helped a lot of people get around their old ways of thinking and into new thoughts that change things for them. If you’re interested, just shoot me an email and we’ll get you scheduled.
But regardless, just never forget that weight loss (or any goal you’re striving for) is all about your mind.