Recently, I’ve had several different experiences with people of varying belief systems, some who are very angry about what other people believe. Particularly religious beliefs. I have spent the better part of the last year questioning my religion–what some people might call a “faith crisis”.
It’s caused me to think A LOT. I have considered myself to be a religious person for most of my life. Recently, I’ve grappled with this part of myself, really questioning whether or not my religion, its beliefs, and its doctrines are serving me. I’ve never really liked the term “faith crisis”, but now I understand it. It definitely feels like I’m in crisis.
I’ve had to question every belief I’ve ever held.
When I say that, I mean: do I really believe everything I’ve been raised to believe? And if so, does believing each idea and doctrine make me show up the way I want to in the world? I’m not referring to whether or not the religion is offering me anything of value.
But today, I’m really wanting to share more of an idea with you.
You get to choose and decide what you believe; a faith crisis is just the process of questioning and choosing those beliefs.
You don’t need anyone to dictate to you what you should believe, even if you belong to a religion that emphasizes authority. In fact, if that describes you: question your religion, vigorously.
It’s in your power to take every single thing that authority figure says and decide for yourself if you believe it or not. It’s an option to pick and choose. You always have the choice.
Take your effing power back.
Not out of anger or defiance, just out of ownership. Own your “faith crisis”. You are the only one who can ultimately decide for you what you’re going to believe.
Other people don’t have to agree with you.
When you go through a faith crisis, it’s common to have loved ones try to influence you to “come back” or tell you what and how you should handle your journey. Remember: you don’t have any control over their actions/words. You can waste a lot of energy and time and breath trying to change other people’s beliefs.
It doesn’t matter if you think they should change; the reality is that they are not changing. You’ll just end up frustrated if your goal is to change other people’s minds.
Show up how you want to show up, and stand up for what you want to see in the world. Set boundaries if needed. But don’t give your power over to anyone else when it comes to your beliefs. That is 100% your responsibility, and that is great news!!
It means that you can feel empowered. It’s so much better to choose your beliefs, rather than just go along blindly or unconsciously with what you were always taught growing up.
This doesn’t mean that you’re questioning with the intent to disprove all your cherished beliefs. You might end up right back where you started, believing the same things, but this time on purpose.
The process might also cause you to question your religion and beliefs that have been holding you back and realize that you don’t have to be held back by them anymore. It’s SO worth it.
It’s totally possible to live true to what you choose to believe, and to let go of old beliefs that you no longer want to choose.
If you’re currently in a faith crisis, never forget that you are the owner, author, and chooser of your own life. It’s scary as hell to take ownership of your beliefs, but if you’re ready, it’s one of the best things you can do.
Here’s more content I’ve written that can help you realize just how much power you actually have, how your current beliefs are shaping your life, and how to go through your faith crisis in a healthy way: